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Have you recently discovered that you’re into kink? Are you confused about where to find other Indian kinksters? There’s a social media network that you absolutely must sign up for.

Welcome to FetLife, which works like Facebook but for kinksters. With over ten million users, this is your gateway to the BDSM scene, anywhere in the world. You’ll find both experienced kinksters and beginners, sharing their knowledge and experience of various kinks and fetishes.You can upload videos, photos, check what other users are posting on their end, comment on their posts, and once you gather a relative amount of friends in your locality, you can start organizing events. It’s a way of bringing togetherness, without judging anyone.

However, do keep in mind that it isn’t a dating app. If you slide into someone’s DMs disrespectfully, you’ll get blocked by them and all their connections there as well.

With that out of the way, let’s set up your FetLife account.

Things To Remember While Creating Your FetLife Account

People on FetLife are very direct. They’ll want to know stuff related to your kinks and fetishes. 

So, start by putting your age, location (the Indian state you live in, not your exact address), preferred name or pronouns, and other details regarding your tastes and preferences when it comes to kink. Adding in your level of experience can also provide valuable insights about you.

A great way to list this out would be to go on BDSM test and paste the results in your About.

My FetLife profile looked like this:

NTimere (22F, Switch)

Orientation: Bisexual

Active: I Live The Lifestyle When I Can

Looking for:

A Mentor/Teacher

Someone to Play With


A Master

A Mistress

A Dominant

A submissive

A slave



The smoother you slide into my DMs, the more likely I am to respond.

My pronouns are she/her.

Kinkster for five years.

== Results from ==

100% Switch

94% Rigger

92% Rope bunny

88% Primal (Prey)

87% Primal (Hunter)

86% Dominant

85% Brat

83% Submissive

75% Masochist

74% Brat tamer

74% Sadist

73% Non-monogamist

73% Voyeur

71% Master/Mistress

62% Experimentalist

55% Exhibitionist

47% Vanilla

31% Slave

26% Degradee

25% Owner

18% Degrader

11% Daddy/Mommy


Into: affectionate domination, aftercare, aftercare cuddles, anime, attention, bare bottom spanking, bare handed spanking, bdsm, being overpowered, bisexuality, blindfolds, bondage, breasts, breath play, candle wax, chains, choking play, collar and lead/leash, collars, control, cuddles, cuddling, cuddling with benefits, d/s, discipline, domination, edging, erotic literature, erotic photography, female supremacy, fishnets, flirting, geeks, handcuffs, handjobs, high heels, humor, impact play, intelligence, leather, light bondage, lingerie, male submission, masochism, music, obedience training, oral sex, paddling, pain, polyamory, remote-control devices, restraints, riding crops, rope bondage, rope bondage/suspension, sadism, sapiosexuality, seduction, sensation play, sensory deprivation, sensual domination, sexual slavery, shibari, snuggling, spanking, switching, tattoos, teasing, toys, wax, whipping, whips

Now, we come to the second-most important part of FetLife: Groups.

If you’d like to start meeting people, you have to be active in the groups that exist in FetLife.

Not only does this help other people know that you’re a genuine kinkster, it also enables a lot more conversation about the kinks and fetishes you’re interested in.

One of the best ways to find people near your location is by using groups. 

Click on the Groups menu and then the search option. Then, just type in the name of your city and see what comes up. The Search option also offers other menus to look through.

For example, you can see:

  • Kinksters in the location you’ve searched  
  • Pictures
  • Videos
  • Discussions
  • Events
  • Fetishes

All of these help you to find potential matchups, especially the kinksters menu. 

At any time, you can also search via the search bar that you will see at the top of the screen.

Once you’ve found someone you’d like to reach out to, you can add them as a friend and start to see their updates as they make them.

FetLife is accessible via browsers on your smartphones anytime and anywhere.

There Is also an Android app that can be downloaded from the website. All the features are still accessible, and a smooth user experience is 100% guaranteed.

We wish you luck in your FetLife adventures!

Writer Gayathri RN

Photographs & Fashion by Leather Subculture

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